GO BEYOND SURVIVE--THRIVE!
This is what I offer audiences during speaking events.
I have experience from three different lenses when it comes to Domestic Violence, Sexual Abuse, and Addiction.
The first lens is the trauma the victim experiences DURING the abuse. The second lens is how the victim lives everyday life AFTER the abuse. The third lens is when the victim wants to get help in order to HEAL from the emotional scars left behind.
Victims of Domestic Violence and/or Sexual Abuse go about living their lives as best they can should the abuse stop. Unfortunately, we live in a society where if it looks good, it must be good.
"Mary's doing well in her life. She has a beautiful home, car, great husband, and kids." Only Mary knows her spirit is wounded, but she'll never tell because Mary was taught to keep secrets when she was being abused. Mary never told a living soul about the trauma she'd been through. "No sense in complaining."
Years after the physical and sexual abuse ended, my life was like Mary's. I had the house, car, wonderful husband, and great kids. I pushed the pain and suffering from the abuse so deep inside my soul, it was as if it never happen. It's called denial!
Living through Domestic Violence, Sexual Abuse or Drug Addiction is TRAUMA! Trauma can be treated. You can't make what happened, unhappen, but you don't have to let it rob you of the best life you can live. There are choices. You can sacrifice your birthright of living a life of fulfillment OR tell somebody what happened to you and get help.
You didn't do this to yourself, it was done to you.